I am currently at my 20th day postpartum as of writing and want to share my thoughts and experiences during this time to have something to look back or review If ever I’ll be pregnant again (but not for the next three years please😐).
1. I believe I had an easy labor. From contractions to recovery I think I pretty much had it easy and simple except for the actual pushing which I never want to put myself in again (I find this to be some sort of torture! Laying strap in the table and all). Let me tell you guys that the birthing position in which they hold laboring mothers is not the best, most productive one. It even seems to put the whole process of pushing against gravity. Thank God this lasts for an hour and forty five minutes only.
2. I just discovered the wonders of sedatives. Being given a sedative and able to sleep for four hours help me to have enough energy for the actual pushing. The insertion of the medicine thru my vein may be painful but it was worth it.
3. The thing they called Lochia is real. You really need to wear adult diapers for days! Good thing that I bought my own set of adult diapers as I find it cost efficient rather than have the hospital supply me one because let’s be honest – hospital items are expensive. Also, buy a dozen of disposable panties as its true that your underwear will get ruined! By day 5 postpartum, I am already wearing maternity pads as I find the diapers hard to remove when peeing also I cannot seem to pee in the diapers as I am fully aware that I am peeing in a diaper, if you know what I mean. Anyway, maternity pads + disposable underwear = quite comfortable duo for my lochia problem.
*** Update on my lochia status by day 23 postpartum, Close to none anymore so yey!
4. Breastfeeding has its ups and downs, but mostly ups. The first week hurts the most because your nipple will bleed, get sore and blistered not because baby’s latch is wrong but due to the opening of the milk ducts (that’s my personal theory). Your toes will curl from the pain😱. Another down would be sleepless nights as you will be feeding by demand, so when the baby cries then so will you. Usually, they woke up every 2 hours but some nights as close as 20 minutes interval.
For the benefits: Of course breast milk is best for babies, I cannot stress that enough. The benefits that both mommy and baby will reap are huge. For Mommy, it lessens post partum bleeding, diminishes one’s chances of having ovarian and breast cancer, helps us to return to our pre-pregnancy weight, there’s also the factor of cost efficiency and portability. As for the baby, the colostrum alone can do wonders to a newborn. Strengthening the immune system, lower risk of obesity and diabetes, helps in brain development and avoids the case of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) to name a few.
I’m still getting the hang of it. But I can attest that breastfeeding and lack of sleep really are the big culprits in returning to my pre-pregnancy weight. I am still waiting for my 6th week prior to exercising to eliminate my tummy flabs😑.
5. Newborns at 3 weeks are noisy sleepers. Whoever coined the phrase “sleeping like a baby” similar to a peaceful sleep has never sleep next to a newborn because let me tell you this little sleeperson is loud! You thought their awake based from those sounds and ready to feed but when you’re about to pick them up their eyes are shut… because they are dreaming, in an REM state or something.
6. Newborns nails are like that of Wolverine’s😱. They are really long and sharp and brutal to the skin especially to Mommy’s breast if ever the protective mittens are off which happens very often because the damn thing would never stick on! May it be the tie up or garter ones.
7. Those clothes sized as newborns (0-3 months)… They lie for they never fit well. My baby is quite average in size for newborns at 7.4 lbs but his tie sides, pajamas and the most frustrating stupid bonnet are all too big for him. But I would like to special mention the brand “hush hush” which newborn’s sizes fits my baby as if its especially made for him. These are found in the baby company in SM stores. Their bonnets are great.
8. Say goodbye to your long straight sleep. When I was pregnant I am wide awake from 8pm-6am and asleep the rest of the day so imagine how much sleep I get then and how ideal my sleeping pattern is now that I have a baby. But now that those sleeping patterns and time is needed that’s when my body would not cooperate, I am super sleepy at the wee hours of the morning when the baby needs me to feed and can never sleep when the day comes as I am wide awake!
9. Too many advices can make you go crazy! Elder’s old sayings really are too much. I follow some but at most it irritates me. I have gone 12 days without taking a shower because they kept on saying that I should not yet. After close to two weeks I finally had one but with a rinsing water made up of boiled guava leaves and while standing in a pile of assorted leaves (tanglad, sampaloc, suha to name a few).
What I really oppose to is whenever there are visitors and they are about to leave is that they need to swipe saliva on my baby to avoid bad elements… eeewww! no, no, no please!
There are more ill advises but I wouldn’t enumerate anymore since I myself would never bother doing them as some sayings are really too much. Anyway, you are the Mom and you will know and will do anything that you think is best for your baby no matter what others are saying.
10. You really need a support system. And I am very thankful that I have a wonderful husband as he really takes care of me and our baby. From the hospital when peeing, cleaning up post labor you need someone to watch over you and help you with things and when you get home, for when you need to take a break to shower, eat, sleep and recharge he can look after the baby. You just need to do shifting so both can have enough rest.
Confession: As early as 15 days postpartum I think I had a meltdown as I have been really overwhelmed with my body changes after labor, being tired, the downs of breastfeeding and sleepless nights that I cried and told my husband that I am tired and close to having a depression but he talked me out of it and we came up with minor changes in our responsibilities so as to ease my half and for that I am very thankful to him.
11. Now I understand why new parents flood facebook with baby photos. EVERYDAY because new parents can’t help it. You can’t get enough photos of your newborn and you want to share how cute they are. My camera roll these days only has one subject: my baby.
12. My epiphany. As I was breastfeeding my baby, I just look at him and thought of the times when I first learned of his existence, what I did during my first trimester, how he feels when I am still pregnant and now, there he is in my arms as a human being. Sucking, blinking, moving and breathing and all. Amazing! He came from inside me. Wow simply wow!
13. You’ll have several nickname for your little one. Same with the photos you simply can’t get enough.
These are my thoughts so far. I am still on my 20th day postpartum and many things will still happen and unravel. I still have a lot to learn as a mother but I am taking my time with my baby one step at a time. So to my fellow moms whose reading this… let’s do this together. Share your thoughts with me😊.
Will forever be grateful for my little Seb,