Love has its levels. From attraction, familiarization, sharing, commitment, intimacy and determination. All is present in your past relationships, but DETERMINATION is lacking or weak leading to ending of the relationship.
That’s where Marriage comes in because you commit for life as you are determine to make it work, to last and to stay strong no matter what is ahead.
So the question is…
How To Maintain A Strong Marriage After Babies?
The first year of Marriage is the most exciting part as you get to travel together, play house for real, can get intimate as long as you want and simply enjoy the legality of husband and wife. Then enter the baby and everything changes…
Yes, A baby changes the house, the couple and life itself. On how you view things, your finances, plans and most especially time.
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Your role as a wife takes a set back and comes in Mom, Mom, Mom!
This is reality. And that’s where Determination of both husband and wife to keep the marriage strong is most needed.
A simple “Thank you, dear” never loses its touch but since the demand for more work or favor is adding up and so the gesture of appreciation should increase too. A gift is my best suggestion, make sure that it is well thought of, useful and will put a smile on your man’s face.
Cook A Favorite Meal
Whipped up something special in your kitchen and serve him his favorite dish. “A way to a Man’s heart is through his stomach” may be old adage but still works. Even some things as simple as serving him coffee or sandwiches will give him the impression of importance.
Have Date Nights
I know with a clingy baby this may be close to impossible. But please find the time for just the two of you. Put back glamour in your always mom bun hairstyle and yoga pants. This will give your husband a fresh and sexier perspective. Also, this will provide you with a normal phase of just eating and walking without the toddler rush you always have when with baby.
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This just not mean Sex, although that is a highlight of all. But kissing, hugging, holding hands or even a hearty conversation counts. This is a need to connect and relate your thoughts to each other in order not to feel estrange.
Write A Letter
Remember those old days when you exchange written love letters? How about a special note on your Anniversary? Telling him things you are thankful for, how proud you are as his wife, how great a father he is and more. As there are some things best expressed in writing.
Your time may be focused on your kids and I truly understand that, you may even claim that you have no ME time. But Marriage is important and should be your priority too because if it fails and so is the family.
Try and learn to make things balance. Make an effort and for sure it will be rewarded too. A love between parents is an important model to instill the virtue of commitment to children. Let’s make sure to reflect a happy home with loving parents.
I hope I am able to give you an idea on how to make you fall in love more with your husband and vice versa. What’s on your list? Maybe I can add them in mine.