Last updated on September 6th, 2019 at 02:20 am
Love has its levels. From attraction, familiarization, sharing, commitment, intimacy and determination. All is present in your past relationships, but DETERMINATION is lacking or weak leading to ending of the relationship.
That’s where Marriage comes in because you commit for life as you are determine to make it work, to last and to stay strong no matter what is ahead.
The first year of Marriage is the most exciting part as you get to travel together, play house for real, can get intimate as long as you want and simply enjoy the legality of husband and wife. Then enter the baby and everything changes…
Yes, A baby changes the house, the couple and life itself. On how you view things, your finances, plans and most especially time. Your role as a wife takes a set back and comes in Mom, Mom, Mom!
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This is reality. And that’s where Determination of both husband and wife to keep the marriage strong is most needed.
How To Maintain A Strong Marriage After Babies?
Show Appreciation
A simple “Thank you, dear” never loses its touch but since the demand for more work or favor is adding up and so the gesture of appreciation should increase too. A gift is my best suggestion, make sure that it is well thought of, useful and will put a smile on your man’s face.
Cook A Favorite Meal
Whipped up something special in your kitchen and serve him his favorite dish. “A way to a Man’s heart is through his stomach” may be old adage but still works. Even some things as simple as serving him coffee or sandwiches will give him the impression of importance.
Have Date Nights
I know with a clingy baby this may be close to impossible. But please find the time for just the two of you. Put back glamour in your always mom bun hairstyle and yoga pants. This will give your husband a fresh and sexier perspective. Also, this will provide you with a normal phase of just eating and walking without the toddler rush you always have when with baby.
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Intimacy
This just not mean Sex, although that is a highlight of all. But kissing, hugging, holding hands or even a hearty conversation counts. This is a need to connect and relate your thoughts to each other in order not to feel estrange.
Write A Letter
Remember those old days when you exchange written love letters? How about a special note on your Anniversary? Telling him things you are thankful for, how proud you are as his wife, how great a father he is and more. As there are some things best expressed in writing.
Your time may be focused on your kids and I truly understand that, you may even claim that you have no ME time. But Marriage is important and should be your priority too because if it fails and so is the family.
Try and learn to make things balance. Make an effort and for sure it will be rewarded too. A love between parents is an important model to instill the virtue of commitment to children. Let’s make sure to reflect a happy home with loving parents.
I hope I am able to give you an idea on how to make you fall in love more with your husband and vice versa. What’s on your list? Maybe I can add them in mine.
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22 Responses
Yes, proud pinay here 🙂 Salamat sa pagbisita sa blog ko.
Wow, 17 years! that is amazing. I guess its you that I should asked advice for 🙂
Hello my fellow Filipina. I saw the barong tagalog in the picture and I just knew 🙂
All very good points. I totally agree that marriage is extremely hard work. I’ve been married for 17 years and just when you thought you’ve got it figured out…you don’t.
I loved your post. So positive and uplifting. Thanks for sharing as its the little things that matter the most ❤️😘 keep Glittering, from TGA by Misha
After you’ve been married for many, many years, that passionate kiss when your partner walks in the door can easily morph into a peck on the check that can then morph into an inability even to look up from your computer. Over the course of my 23-year marriage, there are times when I’ve felt my own husband and I were starting to become so familiar with each other that we were settling into a stultifying — albeit comfortable — routine. But there’s a real danger in that. Studies show that nearly half of men who have cheated say it was because of emotional dissatisfaction — and not sex. When men don’t feel connected or appreciated by their wives, they are vulnerable to the advances of any attractive woman who casts a lustful glance their way. And fellows, it works the other way as well.
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This article was on point in so many ways!
Some great advice. We struggled after the birth of our first to not just be parents, but after the birth of our second our relationship was better than ever! It is so fun to grow in to new people together.
It really takes an intentional effort to make the relationship a priority especially when we are so overwhelmed already as parents. Its true that marriage really changes after. I made this post as a reminder to myself and hopefully to others that we can always do something to make it work for the better. Thank you for your kind words and for reading post.
I guess what makes it better is that you are together and remain strong as you build your family. Thank you for reading my post.
Marriage after children really does look different, doesn’t it?!? I know that I feared how having kids was going to change my marriage. And it did change. But that doesn’t mean we still can’t be close. But it does take work (or ‘fun’ as I like to say), and your examples are all great ideas for making your marriage a priority. 🙂 It’s so easy to become engrossed in the children and to forget that your marriage needs to be a priority. Thank you for the reminder! 🙂
Aw I love that pic of you and your hubby! Yes, babies change everything and I didn’t actually believe it until we were about 2 years after having kids and slowly distance came. But communication and being intentional, as you’ve said here, is what will matter long-term. Thanks for sharing.
So true… 🙂 🙂
Oo naman, kaya kailangang may aircon pag summer at kahit kung may bagyo, mainit-init paminsan-minsan rin.
Thank you for reading this post. As of now we only have a son. I am expecting that more changes will happen if more kids come in. But I know that with determination, me and my husband will ace both our marriage and role as parents😊 Happy to share!
Dito maulan kaya masarap matulog at malamig lamig. Alam mo naman ang summer dito saten naku nakakatunaw!
Walang ano man. Hapon na dito sa Canada at napakainit kasi summer ngayon dito at may heatwave pa.
Hello fellow pinay! I hope you are always well😊 The transition from being a couple to family is a big adjustment and I agree that we just need to go with the current and do hope for the best. Thank you for reading my post.
Thank you for reading and for your kind words😊. Parenting can be overwhelming but we need to take effort in making our spouse our priority too. It will benefit the whole family if the love between husband and wife remains strong.
Loved everything about this post. We often notice and appreciate the role of our partner as a parent but rarely realise the age-old marriage bond going unnoticed during the process. Your post makes a lot of sense and is definitely an eye-opener for couples who lost track of togetherness after experiencing parenthood.
Great blog. It just goes to show that marriage is a 24 hour/7 days a week work in continuous progress. Never take it for granted irregardless of whether one has kids or not. Having even 1 kid will mean adjustments of course but definitely, go with the current and everything will flow ok. I see that your hubby wore a barong tagalog on your wedding day. I should know since I was born and raised in the Philippines before eventually moving to Canada.
Great points! 😊🙏🏽